So I'm sure there's guys out there that have a few questions that they just really want answered, so I thought why not have something especially for you.

Basically what you do is, Guys ask questions about something they'd like to know (that girls can answer), and Girls answer them.

Sounds simple enough =)

girls: why aren't any of your species posting in this thread?

we were waiting for you, luke.

Perhaps asking some questions would be a good start!

Do you think this is a pointless thread? I'm deing to know xD

aight i got one: say I asked a girl if she wanted to see a movie sometime, and she said "maybe". Does this mean no? does this mean she needs some time to think about it? being a simple guy, I have no clue. What should I do? Thanks, chikas

be direct, ask her about a specific movie at a specific time.

Rose has the best advice.
you could tell her you'll take that as a yes. Then suggest a specific movie and day/time and her response will tell if it's a go or not.

i asked her to see a movie this weekend, she said she couldn't, then i asked her if she would want to anytime and she said maybe. Looking back on it all i seem pretty lame but keep in mind, this girl is cute and i was nervous, lol.

WHAT?I was giving advice? Don't listen to me.

As shocking as this may be...yes, rose you were.

Faithful, it sounds like her "maybe" actually means "no." I hate it when girls aren't upfront. Girls: why aren't yall upfront with yes and no questions?

maybe she's afraid to make herself vulnerable and say yes/no until she is sure you're not just jerking her around. or, i don't know, maybe she's arrogant and selfish. but everyone has feelings.

owned

As girls, we don't really like making boys feel bad. But I guess in our attempts to make y'all not feel terrible, we actually can confuse you.

Very true. I suppose guys do this same thing, although I try to always answer yes or no.

you may not realize it, but guys are confusing.

the point is, if you like a girl, be upfront about it. because chances are, she knows how you feel and she might feel the same way or she has no idea and she might feel the same way.

for the record my "owned" was not for or at all in reference to faithfulrock3r

it was in contrast to how many posts are in the guy ask girl vs girl as guy threads


I just wanted to make sure faithfulrock3r knows I wasn't meaning he was owned by that cute girl that keeps saying "maybe" or even worse "no" with asked specifically - two words of advice for that kind of cute maybe answering girl "RUN AWAY" if you stay you will then become owned. Trust me if she wanted to she'd say yes by now, that maybe which is at best a no so far, if you keep trying in order to get it into a yes, you will both be sorry - that's no way to begin, it's only a recipe for failure in the long run, not all girls play mind games! Avoid the ones that do! It’s either a yes or a no... coming from an older wiser honest woman maybe=mind games and in my experience when I did play mind games as a girl the boys never won.

hehe

Yeah I was fixing to say Daisy....lol a little cold hearted, eh? Thanks for clarifying.

Guys are SO CONFUSING! I totally agree. I can't figure them out!

so it's not just me. that's a relief...

ehhh...we aren't confusing as much as girls...seriously!

maybe = no.

haha you'd be surprised.

Actually, I agree... And I'm a girl...
On a bit of a side note, check out 'Foriegn Language' By Anberlin or 'Mood Rings' By Relient K... Both sadly true songs... And mood rings is rather amusing...

Hehe, I'm confusing....well sometimes....I say sure instead of yes so yeah...

right, i really like this girl, but shes one of my best friends, do you think i should be upfornt and honest becuase i really wouldn't want to damage my friendship with her in any way but then again i do really like her

I had a guy friend tell me that he liked me, it freaked me out...and by the time I came around to like him back he tells me that he never liked me to begin with! So, my suggestion if you really do like her take it slow and let her know. Talk to her about it. And give her time to adjust one way or another. But if she needs time give her that too! Just don't go back on what you said...that gets hurtful!! I don't think if I were friends with a guy and he told me that he liked me, and I didn't like him I would let that change our friendship...but that's just me!!

thanks for adivece, will think about it, hmm, shes away for a week now anyway, then its school holidays so plenty of time to get more advice, all is appreciated and taken on board

foreign language is so true.

I'm in the same situation.
I was upfront with him and he didn't freak out on me, so maybe you should just go ahead and tell her and ask her how she feels.
it's your choice though.

I feel like I mostly understand both guys and girls (having brothers helps), but I do agree - girls are more complicated.

however, that doesn't mean they're impossible to figure out. it just takes a bit of shifting perspectives.

(it also depends on the individual person, obviously. some guys are more complicated than some girls. eesh).

as for Benjamino's best friend situation, I'd say if you really are that good of friends, that increases your chances of being able to have healthy conversation about it.

Be upfront with her and let her know you like her more than "just friends"...but also let her know that you value the friendship a great, great deal and that, if she doesn't feel the same way, you'd still be perfectly content with being friends. After all, successful relationships are built on friendship.

True.

I'm going out with a girl who has a history of being on and off with another guy. She admitted to me that it was true and she "sometimes finds herself falling for him again".

So what do you think, stupid mistake on my part? Should I even let it go any further?

Be brutal.

Uh, honestly, I wouldn't let it go on any further. If she is really fickle like you say she is, I would definitely cut the ties.

thanks for help everyone, i may tell her when i next see her

alright, i helped bring a girl to Christ at a camp that i work at called Camp Eagle. we talked for a while, just as friends, but then she dumped her bf. this past summer, we started dating, and it was awsome, but she lives four hous away from me, and if she wasn't going to be able to see me every day, she would get depressed. so we both kind of decided that if it was going to hurt her, it wouldn't be the best idea. but now, we're both going to get our drivers liscnses, and i would be able to see her more often. do y'all think i should try and tell her how i feel, or just stay good friends?

ok well, even though Dan (not a girl) already offered you advice, I will too.

I'd say stop dating her until she can completely and clearly figure out her relationship with this other guy. She needs to understand that it's not fair to you for her to be going back and forth like that. She should work out her feelings for the other guy before dating anyone else.

Good advice gellie

don't be too hard on her for admitting and being honest about "sometimes falling for him again"

I wouldn't give up till she honestly says "i've fallen again" but that means you might get dumped, but then again you might not - I think she's worth more time, since she is being honest - you gotta give her credit for being honest - not an ez quality to find sometimes...

I confuse everyone, male or female!

But seriously, I've noticed that girls don't give straight answers very often. Like one of my friends got dumped by his gf, and she refused to tell him why. She pulled the "don't act like you don't know" act. My friend has absolutely no clue what happened. Is there any reason girls can't just say "I dumped you because of X" ? Is that code for something? We're dense and have no clue what's going on.

psh... don't act like you don't know!

See? This is what we are trying to avoid.
I'm not acting. I'm just oblivious.

Thanks everybody, your advice makes alot of sense. I still feel sort of caught in the middle, but I think I'm going to let it play out just a little longer. I really want to see where this goes before I cut off something that might be really great.

Daisy-you're right, honesty is a quality I haven't seen in my relationships in a while. Thank you

Ok ladies, I want to know, what is an 'urgh... typical male...'?

Hmm, different things to different people. I think a jerkish (not necessarily a jerk) arrogant person who tells disgusting jokes and discusses things that are inappropriate and revolting, cusses at least once every other sentance, and shows off in front of other guys or girls.
Or at least that is the NE Kansas Almost-Nowhere Version. And the many of the people I am thinking of are basically hicks, and they embrace the title. Everyone else is just... Hmm, I was about to say 'just acting like guys' Most girls around here are not much better... I'm sure some guys, maybe a lot of guys, are okay, but there are not many around here...
I probably do not speak for too many girls though... I can't understand them, most distort and twist their words to gain nothing and are always reaching for what they think is happiness...

For the majority of girls, I think it just means 'Oh! Something to giggle about over lunch and argue about later!'

I almost think I should not be so blunt...

you're welcome - it took me quite a few years to get over the guy I was with before my husband - and I was the one who broke it off - essentially I left him for my husband - it took a good century to stop literally dreaming subconsciously that I was still with that guy I'd wake up all annoyed that he was still in my head but I was always honest with my husband communication is always the #1 reason I give when people ask how we've managed to stay together for 20 years. Let her talk to you about it - it can help her and strengthen your relationship - don't be afraid... at this point there's nothing to loose by talking since it's a bit rocky as is... just keep talking.

watch, if it's out there to see, Defending the Cave Man - the longest running one man Broadway Show since...

there you will see the typical male

"men hunt, women gather"